Today’s newsletter is a little less about health and a little more about life.
How many of you are going through times of frustration right now? How many of you have had things go wrong in your life during these difficult times? How many of you have had someone treat you poorly or do you wrong? I know the answer to these questions for me is often.
When things like this happen, it is so easy to let our emotions take control of us. We feel angry, frustrated, or sad. We find ourselves in a funk unable to stop thinking about what has happened to us and it eats us up. A funk that makes us feel like we are damaged.
Whenever you are in a situation like this, it is difficult not to feel victimized and even more difficult to hear someone tell you that “everything is going to be alright.” I’m not going to tell you that everything is going to be alright because you already know that and it won’t make you feel any better.
What I am going to tell you is that you are in control more than you think. An event or another person cannot damage you unless you permit them to do so. When another person has seemingly wronged you, you are in control of the perception of whether or not the act has actually damaged you. Therefore, if you end up feeling damaged, it is your own doing.
Similarly, when things happen in life that cause us to feel poorly or victimized, it is also our doings that have made us feel this way for no one and nothing is in charge of our reactions or perceptions besides ourselves.
That may sound harsh but it’s true. The truth is, no one but ourself has the ability to impact our state of mind. I take this realization with conviction. Especially in the case of those who have wronged me.
Why give the power to someone or something else to change the way we feel for the worse? Especially someone who has treated us poorly. I don’t know about you but I refuse to let another person make me feel feelings that will hurt my quality of life. They do not have that power over me.
This is a pretty simple realization but that doesn’t make it any easier to stick to. For this reason, I suggest that when you have been treated poorly or have had something bad happen to you, you should seek revenge. Not what you were expecting to hear? Let me explain.
Seek revenge by regaining control over your emotions and quality of life. Seek revenge by deciding that there is no way in hell you are going to let someone who has the nerve to treat you poorly to have control over the way you feel. Seek revenge by being bulletproof and not letting this person get the best of you. Seek revenge by being victorious over the person who has treated you wrong by not letting them get the reaction out of you or inside of you that they may be looking for.
As you go through this week, consider your physical, mental, and emotional reactions to what is going on around you. Realize that there is nothing for you to gain when you are frustrated by the person who cut you off in traffic. Realize that rather than being upset about the backhanded comment a coworker made that it is in your best interest to not think twice about that comment. Realize that you are in control of your perception so why not make them as positive as possible?
Thanks for reading and I hope everyone has a great week!
Chris Irvin